Teen Witches are more prevalent than you might suppose.
Groups of two and three fifteen to eighteen-year-old witches meet
all over the country, trying desperately to find their own
religious path in an unfamiliar world. These brave young adults
seek to know their destinies, learn how to enhance their lives,
and raise their spiritual consciousness.
Some of these teen Witches, however, have a handicap-- the
spiritual mindset of the adults around them. If the enviroment
encircling the teen becomes barren or stagnated, his or her
spiritual growth wanes. Some teens truly follow the old ways,
practicing in secret for several years, until they reach
adulthood and can move to an enviroment suitable to practice
their belief system.
Serious teen Witches of non-Craft parents know that if they
try to assert their independence by changing the package they
display to their parents, life will be harder, not easier.
Adult Witches rarely give credit to our youthful
counterparts. We have an excuse, you see-- our rule not to train
non-Craft childern untill they are twenty-one. Although we have a
good reason for the rule, this dictate does not assist the
aspiring Witch. How do these resourceful young ones find their
spirituality? Mostly by reading. How do I know the answer to this
question? By the hundreds of letters I receive from teens who are
seeking the Craft of the Wise.
The most asked question is, "How do I tell my parents I am
a Witch?" It isn't only teens who ask this question. Many
individuals in their twenties have written me with the same tone
of despair on the issue. This query is a tough one, full of
ramifications. Each situation is different, and there is no
single appropriate answer to be tossed into the mind of the teen
or young adult. However, here are some ideas, shoud you be facing
the monumental decision of "breaking the news" to your parents.
Do not do a one-eighty on you parents.
You will give them a heart failure if you have been Rebecca
of Sunnybrook Farm for fifteen (or fifty) years, and suddenly
turn into a pseudo-vampire complete with learher collar and
pointy spikes. Real witches don't dress like that anyway (we
hope). Be creative, but don't be off the wall. Forget the hair
color that changes your natural blonde tresses to the fine sheen
of a raven's wing. Let the fingernail polish that makes your
fingers look as if you've dipped then in graveyard dirt alone.
Radical changes in behavior or dress signal the parent that you
are in over your head, and are barreling srraight into serious,
Act with honor and integrity at all times.
If your behavior reflects good values and principles, then
your parents won't rush to the ritalin cabinet. Being a teen is
difficult as it is. Don't make fun of your peers, for any reason.
Be honest in money dealings. Be kind to those who are less
fortunate than you. Don't run with the pack of those who think
that they are better than the rest. Don't allow your mood swings
to get out of hand. Learn to control your enviroment without
hatred or weapons; you are not as helpless as you may think. Seek
individuals who bring harmony into your life, rather than those
who bring chaos.
Investigate several religions and talk to the parent who is most open
on the concepts of life about these various belief systems. Have
family discussion, telling your parents what you have read, and
ask them why they do or do not support this or that religion or
belief system. Don't get into an argument, but be firm on your
Take your time.
If today you are Baptist and tomarrow you are Craft, look
for terror in the eyes of your parents. It just isn't fair to do
that to them. Leave various articles about the Goddess hanging
around the house. Look for material that is historically and
archeologically correct. Find reading material that is
inspirational and non-threatening, and share this information
with your parents. Turn on the Learning Channel where features
include investigation of matri-focal religions and various
religious aspects of different cultures. Parents have the
capability of learning. This mode of behavior does not shut down
when they turn thirty. There is still hope. Your parents can
learn as much from you as you can from them. Think about it. Are
you a kind and gentle teacher?
Walk softly and carry a big stick.
Walk softly means don't rock the proverbial boat. Try to be
harmonious in all you do. Your "big stick" is the magick you are
learning to do. Work for joy, harmony, and prositive influences
in your life.
Don't expect your life to change overnight.
Magick for various ends can be like a beautiful silver or
gold chain-- you forge one link at a time, until the matter comes
full circle. Some magicks take only a few days, others, weeks or
even months. A few magicks will take years. Accept this, and keep
your spirit always reaching for divinity.
By Silver RavenWolf
Origanally appeard in Llewellyn's 1997 Magical Almanac.