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Teen Witch:

How Do I Tell My Parents?

By: Silver RavenWolf

Teen Witches are more prevalent than you might suppose.

Groups of two and three fifteen to eighteen-year-old witches meet

all over the country, trying desperately to find their own

religious path in an unfamiliar world. These brave young adults

seek to know their destinies, learn how to enhance their lives,

and raise their spiritual consciousness.

Some of these teen Witches, however, have a handicap-- the

spiritual mindset of the adults around them. If the enviroment

encircling the teen becomes barren or stagnated, his or her

spiritual growth wanes. Some teens truly follow the old ways,

practicing in secret for several years, until they reach

adulthood and can move to an enviroment suitable to practice

their belief system.

Serious teen Witches of non-Craft parents know that if they

try to assert their independence by changing the package they

display to their parents, life will be harder, not easier.

Adult Witches rarely give credit to our youthful

counterparts. We have an excuse, you see-- our rule not to train

non-Craft childern untill they are twenty-one. Although we have a

good reason for the rule, this dictate does not assist the

aspiring Witch. How do these resourceful young ones find their

spirituality? Mostly by reading. How do I know the answer to this

question? By the hundreds of letters I receive from teens who are

seeking the Craft of the Wise.

The most asked question is, "How do I tell my parents I am

a Witch?" It isn't only teens who ask this question. Many

individuals in their twenties have written me with the same tone

of despair on the issue. This query is a tough one, full of

ramifications. Each situation is different, and there is no

single appropriate answer to be tossed into the mind of the teen

or young adult. However, here are some ideas, shoud you be facing

the monumental decision of "breaking the news" to your parents.

Do not do a one-eighty on you parents.

You will give them a heart failure if you have been Rebecca

of Sunnybrook Farm for fifteen (or fifty) years, and suddenly

turn into a pseudo-vampire complete with learher collar and

pointy spikes. Real witches don't dress like that anyway (we

hope). Be creative, but don't be off the wall. Forget the hair

color that changes your natural blonde tresses to the fine sheen

of a raven's wing. Let the fingernail polish that makes your

fingers look as if you've dipped then in graveyard dirt alone.

Radical changes in behavior or dress signal the parent that you

are in over your head, and are barreling srraight into serious,

mental trouble.

Act with honor and integrity at all times.

If your behavior reflects good values and principles, then

your parents won't rush to the ritalin cabinet. Being a teen is

difficult as it is. Don't make fun of your peers, for any reason.

Be honest in money dealings. Be kind to those who are less

fortunate than you. Don't run with the pack of those who think

that they are better than the rest. Don't allow your mood swings

to get out of hand. Learn to control your enviroment without

hatred or weapons; you are not as helpless as you may think. Seek

individuals who bring harmony into your life, rather than those

who bring chaos.

Investigate several religions and talk to the parent who is most open

on the concepts of life about these various belief systems. Have

family discussion, telling your parents what you have read, and

ask them why they do or do not support this or that religion or

belief system. Don't get into an argument, but be firm on your

personal beliefs.

Take your time.

If today you are Baptist and tomarrow you are Craft, look

for terror in the eyes of your parents. It just isn't fair to do

that to them. Leave various articles about the Goddess hanging

around the house. Look for material that is historically and

archeologically correct. Find reading material that is

inspirational and non-threatening, and share this information

with your parents. Turn on the Learning Channel where features

include investigation of matri-focal religions and various

religious aspects of different cultures. Parents have the

capability of learning. This mode of behavior does not shut down

when they turn thirty. There is still hope. Your parents can

learn as much from you as you can from them. Think about it. Are

you a kind and gentle teacher?

Walk softly and carry a big stick.

Walk softly means don't rock the proverbial boat. Try to be

harmonious in all you do. Your "big stick" is the magick you are

learning to do. Work for joy, harmony, and prositive influences

in your life.

Don't expect your life to change overnight.

Magick for various ends can be like a beautiful silver or

gold chain-- you forge one link at a time, until the matter comes

full circle. Some magicks take only a few days, others, weeks or

even months. A few magicks will take years. Accept this, and keep

your spirit always reaching for divinity.

By Silver RavenWolf

Origanally appeard in Llewellyn's 1997 Magical Almanac.

Copyright 1997